This article is for those of us who can’t resist a personality test. For those of us who’ve spent more time analyzing our own thoughts, reactions, and behaviors than we’d care to admit.

You know exactly why you reacted the way you did.

You can trace your perfectionism back to childhood.

You understand where your people-pleasing came from.

You recognize your attachment patterns.

You've read the books.

Listened to the podcasts.

Maybe you've even been in therapy before.

And yet...

You still apologize for things that aren't your fault.

You still struggle to rest.

You still second-guess yourself.

You still find yourself saying yes when you mean no.

You still feel anxious, exhausted, or disconnected.

You’ve always been the person who could handle just about anything - the one other people relied on, especially in a crisis.

You could research every option, anticipate every problem, remember everyone's birthdays, manage the logistics, keep the peace, and somehow just make it all work.

You’ve built a life and a career around being competent, but you’re carrying more around than anyone realizes. So when something shifts in your capacity, it feels frustrating … and confusing.

The political events of the last few years have felt triggering for many folks, for good reason. AND there is a special kind of activation when the things the government is doing sounds very much like what the authority figures of your childhood did or told you would happen.

Religious deconstruction isn’t just changing your mind about some arbitrary theological details. Deconstruction is a cognitive, emotional, relational, and spiritual-existential process. It can be lonely, painful, and even traumatic, though many people who have experienced it do not regret their choices. If you have deconstructed or are deconstructing, your mental health is very likely being affected, and you can benefit from talking to a mental health provider who specializes in working with religious deconstruction.